MANILA, Philippines – What is Valentine’s Day without the usual griping and gushing about relationships? Mostly by women.

But what about the men? What do they think? How do they feel?

At the #SexTalk Google Hangout, Rappler’s resident sex columnist, Ana P. Santos had a chat with Vince Golangco of When In Manila, Philippine Volcanoes flanker Kit Guerra, also Love Yourself HIV Awareness Campaign endorser, and Ministry of Mushroom CEO and commercial model Marco Lobregat about what makes a guy stay or run away.

COCOL, HOHOL Dating:

In these days going out is done via SMS and there are meet ups for coffee that are ambiguous and guys less afraid of commitments.

Vince: There’s less pressure for both parties to ask someone out on an “official date.” There’s too much expectation compared to not calling it a date. You don’t have to go through the rituals of a “date” and if things don’t work out, then it’s okay.

Marco: I eventually ask them out on dates. You want to get to know them first, then if I want more, then we can go out on a date. But in the beginning, no.

On how technology has changed the dating scene

Marco: We just grow up and put less pressure on ourselves. But technology makes it easier. You text someone and you chat more often and it makes going out on dates easier. 

Vince: I think it makes everyone lazier. Instead of having to go out on someone, now you can do it on Google+Hangout. But there is more pressure, too. But if you mess up on a date, a girl can put it up on Facebook. It might be more pressure, I don’t know.

What are men looking for in a girl? In a relationship?

TURN ON or TURN OFF?

Intelligence?

Marco: Definite turn-on. I get bored if they can’t match. I actually prefer sometimes that they outwit me. Guys like the challenge even till today.

Vince: On! I think they have to stimulate you in other ways. It’s cool to have an actual conversation with someone.

On a girl asking a guy out on a date

Marco: Curious, but wary. Girls don’t usually make the first move. But then again to be honest, I’m neutral. If the girl is hot and I’m already attracted to her, then it’s a turn on.

Vince: I’m neutral. Directly asking me out on date. That might be little…But okay, let me rephrase my earlier answer. If she’s hot, then it’s a real turn-on!

The Maria Clara type

Vince: Turn off. I like independent women. If I meet a girl who has a curfew or has to ask her parents for permission or has a curfew, then I get really turned off.

Marco: How old are you, Vince? I’m wondering why the girls you’re asking out still have a curfew. If it’s a mind game, then it’s a turn off. I like girls holding back a bit just to be unsure to check you in the beginning, then it’s ok. But if it’s a mind game, then it’s a turn off.

Vince: But the biggest mind game ever is: Do I look fat in this? There is just no right answer!

Sex

Is virginity still important?

Marco: At a certain age, yes.

Vince: I wouldn’t want to be with a virgin.  

Kit: No. It’s really more of the person.
 

What makes a woman sexy? 

Marco: Many things. We talked about intellect earlier, but humor is definitely another thing.

Vince: I’m turned on most by women who are smart. I like girls who read. Smarts are a real turn-on for me.

Breaking Up

Is the best way to get over someone to get under someone else?

Marco:  It helps.

Vince: Yeah, it helps. – Rappler.com