MANILA, Philippines – Your twenties will probably be the most memorable decade of your life. It’s the time when you get your first taste of independence – you’re about to graduate from college, well on your way in the search for your dream job, or already pursuing your passion.
You make mistakes, you have regrets, you lose and gain friends, and as crazy as it sounds, you’d be willing to do it all over again.
But we all know that we also gain new responsibilities in this time of our lives. It’s time to grow up, make some changes and let go of some things to let us discover ourselves.
Here’s our own list of what women in their twenties should say goodbye to:
1. 'High school' drama
MEAN GIRLS. The silent treatment and unreasonable bickering has got to stop. All graphics by Raffy de Guzman.
If you find out that a friend of yours talks about you behind your back, the first thing you would probably do is give her the silent treatment and tell the rest of your friends to stop talking to her. Maybe back in high school this was the way to go but by now, you should be over the high school drama.
These immature fights and unreasonable bickering shouldn’t last until you’re twenty. Resolve the problem like an adult. Confront each other then move on. Let go of regrets, move forward and focus on becoming a better person for yourself.
2. Always saying ‘yes’ to everyone and to everything
PEER PRESSURE. Speak up and learn how to prioritize for a better life ahead.
There are many things that you should be saying no to but the peer pressure just gets to you.
If you have a big exam or presentation the next day and you get invited to go drinking until late night control your alcohol, or just decline the invite. You have start prioritizing. We’re not saying you shouldn’t go out and have fun, but some times you will eventually have to say no to the things that you used to do back in the day to give way to new things and opportunities in life.
3. Letting your fears rule you
NO FEAR. Let go and just go with the flow, but still keep in mind to act responsibly.
One of the things that hold us back is the fear of making mistakes and what others will think about you. But don’t be afraid to make mistakes because that is inevitable. Learn from it, live with it then move on.
Now it’s time to get things done on your own and enjoy the journey that comes with it. You should take risks and leave your comfort zone. Explore and find out what else is in store for you and see it as a whole new adventure to welcome you in the new chapter of your life.
4. Not caring for your skin
SKIN CARE 101. Taking care of your body will make you feel confident and great about yourself.
As we grow older, we need to start taking care of our skin to avoid pimples and wrinkles at a young age. Cleanse and moisturize every day, wear sun block when you’re exposed to the sun, wash off any chemicals on your skin before you go to sleep and stay hydrated.
5. Neglecting feminine hygiene
CHOICES. Use longer pads for better protection and say goodbye to back leaks.
Being responsible for yourself also means taking care of yourself. Taking care of your skin is one thing, but feminine hygiene should also be a top priority.
One thing all women have in common is getting their period every month and this will last up until your 50! So since you still have about 30 years left of getting your monthly period, you should start taking feminine hygiene seriously. And this means using a feminine wash daily and using the right pad for you.
At your twenties, you should know by now that stains and back leaks can be prevented. You can’t seriously still be having stains at this point of your life. So say goodbye to back leaks, stains and short and thick pads. Why not use long pads that have you covered for the entire day.
No matter what age you are, you still have to maintain that clean feeling down there, yes?
6. Comparing yourself to others
YOU ARE YOUR GREATEST COMPETITOR. Don't measure success or improvement based on others' achievements.
Your success should not be measured by others’ success. The real world is definitely competitive which is why you should focus on yourself, improve on your own terms and strive for your own dreams.
7. Unhealthy living
BALANCED DIET, ANYONE? Start eating right and you'll see and feel the difference physically and emotionally.
Say goodbye to take-outs every week and crashing on the couch every weekend. Start exercising, get into shape and start a healthy diet. When you’re 30, you will definitely say goodbye to your super-fast metabolism and regret all the binge-drinking and eating you did when you were younger.
So while there’s still time to get back into shape and live a healthier life, go for it. As they say, health is wealth.
8. Relying on your parents financially
BILLS, BILLS, BILLS. Start managing your own finances and pay for all your expenses. And give back to your parents once in a while.
Being in your twenties also means gaining more responsibility and that includes managing your own finances. Once you get a job, you should learn how to live within your means and start earning your keep.
And believe every adult out there, practicing this in your early twenties will make it easier for you to budget your finances when you get older.
9. Not holding yourself accountable for your own mistakes
STEP UP. Take your mistakes and learn from them. Be mature enough to admit your shortcomings and be a better person.
In the real world, passing on the blame to others is not something you can easily get away with. It will affect your work and relationships with others. Act like a professional. If you make a mistake, hold yourself accountable. If you feel like your colleague is not performing well, confront them. It’s not only polite but it will build character and you will gain respect from others.
10. Obsessing about not being in a relationship
BOYFRIEND OR NO BOYFRIEND? Focus on improving yourself and don't depend on others for your own happiness.
Just because you’re in your twenties doesn’t mean you have to have a boyfriend. This is especially difficult when you’re in the age where your best friends are getting engaged or married. But you shouldn’t feel pressured. As they say, timing is everything. You wouldn’t want to settle just because you don’t want to feel left out, right?
Focus on yourself, love yourself, then when the time is right, you’ll find the right person for you.
At any age, women will continue to grow and learn along the way. It’s still important to stay true to yourself, but letting go is one reality we all have to face. In order to face the world with a fresh perspective and the right attitude, saying goodbye to things that hold you back may just be the way to go. – Rappler.com
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