What Drew Arellano has learned about parenting from wife Iya Villania, mom Bernie
MANILA, Philippines – When it comes to parenting, television host Drew Arellano is all praises for wife Iya Villania and his mother Bernie Estrella Arellano.
In an interview with select media at the Cerelac event last April 28, Drew was asked what he has learned from Iya and his mom, now that he's a parent himself to son Primo and their second baby son.
"You know when your mom would tell you that you need to do this, [and] when you get older, you'll understand why? Now I do," he said.
"So I guess that it's a general thing to say, but it's true. Whatever it is – hang your towels, close the toothpaste – you got to think about that even if it's too late, even if you're sleepy. These are the things that I don't want before. But now, you realize it's really for the better. Moms know best – they know what's best for you."
"And what I've [learned] naman from Iya is 'yung it's so natural for her to transition from being my wife to that first-time mother. Yung kapa stage niya was very minimal eh. Na parang wow, ni-reveal siya in front of my eyes na... sobrang panalo siya talaga to the point na sobra akong na-amaze. Like wow, everyday is Mother's Day," Drew said.
(And what I've learned from Iya is that it's so natural for her to transition from being my wife to that first-time mother. Her transition stage was very minimal. Like, wow, she was revealed in front of my eyes. She's really a winner to the point that I was really amazed. Like, wow, everyday is Mother's Day.)
Transition to parenting
In the same interview, Drew described fatherhood as a "truthful, wonderful ride." (READ: Iya Villania on motherhood and keeping your child active)
"It's a bit challenging for the first few months because it's our first. And the baby looks so fragile. Now p'wede mo nang balibagin (you can already play with him a lot)," he said in jest.
"So I guess for the past year and a half, ang dami naming natutunan (we learned a lot) and hopefully, 'yung transition ng panganganak ni Iya sa second namin (the transition of Iya's birth with our second child) will be smoother and probably easier, and less challenging. But you know what, what they say, different child, different experience."
During the event, Drew said that as a first-time parent, he saw how it was natural for mothers to immediately adjust. In his case, he had to ask how he could do it right.
"Kahit sa pagpaligo, pag-change ng diapers, 'yung pagkain (Even when it comes to bathing, changing diapers, the food), everything was very challenging – for both of us, yes, but more for me. But because of the Lola's help, the mother of Iya being there, and Iya being such a natural mother, taking care of Primo, nalaman ko din parang (that's how I knew), 'Ah, so that's how it is," he said.
"It's a process that you have to go through in order to become a better parent. I can never compare myself to another parent. Am I a good parent? I don't know."
Drew said it's fortunate that he and Iya have flexible schedules that help in making sure they are raising their family right and that they have the same mindset as parents.
He also admitted that when it comes to their son getting into minor accidents, he's the parent who easily gets worried, while Iya is the calm one.
"Si Iya 'yung, 'Okay lang iyan, maiipit iyan.' Paano [kung] maiipit iyan, baka dumugo or whatever?" he shared.
"'Pag naipit, naipit siya. Alam niya na huwag niya gagawin iyon.' Siya yung mas malakas ang loob pagdating sa ganyan."
(Iya is like, "It's okay if he gets caught in between." I'm like, "What if he bleeds or whatever?" "If he gets hurt, he gets hurt. Then he will know that he should not do it again." Iya is the stronger one when it comes to things like that.) – Rappler.com