COURAGE TO END IT. Bianca Gonzalez shares that she was in an abusive relationship in the past. Photo from Instagram/@iamsuperbianca
MANILA, Philippines – TV host Bianca Gonzalez said that she was involved in an abusive relationship in the past, which led her to be "rebellious" in high school.
In an interview on The Bottomline Saturday, February 7, Bianca recalled how her ex-boyfriend treated her.
“May bad boy lang akong boyfriend noon in high school. [He abused me nang] verbal, physical. Naalala ko 'yung unang unang beses was tinulak ako nang pa-ganyan tapos nahulog ako sa ground. Tapos hindi ako makagalaw kasi hindi ako makapaniwala that that just happened,” she said.
(I had a bad boyfriend before in high school. [He abused me] verbally, physically. I remember the very first time that he pushed me and I fell on the ground. And then I could not move because I could not believe that that just happened.)
“Meron silang way na pagkatapos kang masaktan, masuntok, magso-sorry sila in a super malambing way na mafi-feel mo na, ‘Oo nga ginagawa lang niya ito kasi mahal niya ako.’ Ang mangyayari, lagi siyang makikipag-break sa akin tapos ako yung, 'Ayusin na natin,'” she said.
(They have a way that after you are hurt, they will say sorry in a super nice way, that you'll feel 'Yes, he's just doing it because he loves me.' And he would always break up with me, and I would be the one going, 'Let's fix this.')
She realized one day it was time to end the vicious cycle.
“Naalala ko may one fight kami na nakipag-break siya tapos sabi ko okay. Tapos nagulat siya na hindi ko na gustong ayusin. Super cut communication kasi that relationship was tago. Apparently a mother senses that so whenever he would go to the house, ayaw talaga ng mom ko."
(I remember we had one big fight, he broke up with me, and I just said 'Okay.' And then he was surprised because I did not want to fix it. The communication wasn't great because that relationship was a secret one. Apparently a mother senses that, so whenever he would go to the house, my mom didn't really like that.)
According to Bianca, after their break up, her ex-boyfriend realized his mistake when he came by her house one year after and said sorry, because his sister came home crying after her boyfriend hit her.
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