Why it’s okay to make a mess sometimes
MANILA, Philippines – Stains and dirt have always had negative connotations. Whether used literally or figuratively, they mean to taint something that was once pure.
But every stain has a story. And sometimes, these stories aren’t bad at all.
This rings especially true when you’re a parent.
The dark side of stains
A parent’s first instinct when her child makes a mess is to sternly tell them off: “Sinabi nang huwag magdudumi, eh (I told you not to get dirty)!” or “Huwag kang magkakalat (Don’t make a mess)!”
Stains and dirt are unsightly. And for a parent who also does all the housework, it can be tedious to constantly clean up.
Other people are also quick to perceive mothers as irresponsible when they see a messy child. They say, “Bakit naman pinapabayaan lang ng magulang nya na magkalat ‘yan (Why do the parents neglect their children like that),” the judgment evident in their tone.
Not all stains are bad
There will be circumstances when mothers need to be away from their kids. During these times, their worry about stains and messes intesifies.
Breeze Philippines recently released a video depicting this scenario to prove that dirt can be good for children. The "Field Good Trip" is a social experiment featuring real moms and kids.
In the video, the kids are put in a situation where a lola fell off from a chair while she was teaching them how to harvest lettuce.
Watch how the kids and their moms reacted above.
Encourage, not discourage
The video encourages moms to allow their kids to get dirty, if it means giving them valuable life lessons – allowing us to understand that dirt is good, and that the dirt on the child’s clothes are their own, unique badge of goodness.
This social experiment is a good example for mothers and children alike. Raising kids is hard, but when you think about it, it’s easier to wash away stains than it is to bring up a good child. – Rappler.com
Illustrations by Alyssa Arizabal