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When Filipino parents in US encourage kids to share feelings and promote cultural pride, kids’ mental health improves

Joyce Javier, The Conversation
When Filipino parents in US encourage kids to share feelings and promote cultural pride, kids’ mental health improves
'People of Filipino heritage are less likely than the general population of the US to seek mental health help'

Immigrant families in the US are extremely resilient. Yet some immigrant parents struggle to raise children who can thrive in their new country’s culture. Whether they are dealing with a language barrier or economic challenges, immigrants who bring their kids to the US – or who become parents after arriving – face unique challenges American-born parents don’t.

I see this often in my work as a general pediatrician at Children’s Hospital Los Angeles and an associate professor of clinical pediatrics at the Keck School of Medicine of the University of Southern California. As the daughter of immigrants from the Philippines, I partner with parents, grandparents, and key leaders and organizations in my community to evaluate and implement programs that optimize parent-child relationships in families of Filipino descent.

Filipinos are the third-largest Asian American subgroup in the United States.

Filipino American young people face challenges similar to those faced by all kids in the US today, including increasing suicidal behavior, depression and anxiety.

But people of Filipino heritage are less likely than the general population of the US to seek mental health help. Over the past decade, the Filipino community in Southern California has mobilized to improve its young people’s mental health – in the process creating the Filipino Family Health Initiative to meet those needs. As part of its efforts, the initiative offers parenting workshops, in which our team of health and mental health providers teach adults to build stronger parent-child relationships during the kids’ school-age years.

When working with Filipino parents, we encourage them to use positive parenting strategies while also focusing on the strengths of our Filipino upbringing.

After participating in these workshops, parents report less parenting stress and fewer child behavior problems and increased use of praise with their children, compared with parents who have not completed the workshops. In addition, the children of these parents report fewer symptoms of anxiety and depression.

Encourage kids to talk about feelings

Research is clear: when kids are able to talk with their family about their feelings, they are more likely to feel that family members stand by them during difficult times. This is an example of a positive childhood experience that leads to healthier adult relationships and fewer mental health problems in the future.

But as in many cultures, Filipino families don’t often talk about their feelings. This is likely related to shame and stigma. Parents who can do this can promote their kids’ emotional well-being as children, and into their adult lives.

This could start with validating their feelings and acknowledging that their emotions are real. For example, children can benefit from hearing adults say to them, “I can see that you are very upset. That must have been hard for you, and I can see you are making an effort to try again.”

Teach kids about their unique culture

Many immigrant communities are pressured to assimilate into US culture. At times, this can give kids an impression that they should be ashamed, or would be left out, if they embraced their heritage.

For Filipinos, this feeling can be made worse by the Philippines’ history of being colonized, first by the Spanish and then by the US itself. Many Filipino youths in the US are not raised to celebrate their own history and culture, for reasons that include racism, discrimination, and colonial mentality. They therefore do not learn about what makes Filipino culture unique and beautiful. Those with less cultural pride can be at risk of having lower self-esteem and poorer mental health.

Parents can foster cultural pride and help young people participate in community traditions and activities that highlight their heritage. For instance, in August 2022, I watched the movie Easter Sunday with my children and other family members on the big screen.

It is the first Filipino film from a major Hollywood studio. Produced by Steven Spielberg’s company Amblin Entertainment and distributed by Universal Pictures, Easter Sunday stars several Filipino American actors – including comedian Jo Koy and Rodney To, an actor and professor in the USC School of Dramatic Arts – playing their own ethnicity.

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Watching this movie felt like home for me and my family, because it reflected our experiences growing up in an immigrant family. In addition, given that October is Filipino American History Month, attending events that celebrate Filipino American contributions to the US and Filipino culture are ways to promote ethnic pride.

Celebrate the strengths of your culture

The Filipino community in the US has a lot to be proud of. One in four of us are essential health care workers, for instance. During the pandemic, workers both in health care and in other fields have mobilized and volunteered countless hours to raise awareness about the disproportionate share of Filipino health care workers who died from COVID-19, and about the need for culturally specific support for the Filipino community during the pandemic and beyond.

That’s just one way many Filipino Americans express the Filipino cultural value of “bayanihan,” meaning helping others without expecting anything in return. Parents can teach this value by pointing out examples when it is done and by modeling it in their own behavior.

Parenting is the hardest job I know. While parents can’t control everything that happens to our children, we can influence and be responsible for our relationships with them and commit to continuous improvement.

We can start by learning positive parenting strategies, such as encouraging our kids to talk about their feelings and helping our kids to learn about and value our culture. By focusing on creating safe havens and positive environments within our homes, we have the power to foster open communication within our families and promote a sense of identity and self-worth within our young people. – The Conversation|Rappler.com

Joyce Javier is an Associate Professor of Clinical Pediatrics, University of Southern California.

This piece was originally published in The Conversation.

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