#AskMargie: Introverts-extroverts in relationships
MANILA, Philippines – After two episodes of defining exactly what introverts and extroverts are, clinical psychologist Dr. Margie Holmes talks about what they look for in a relationship.
I asked: What do introverts look for in a relationship?
Here’s what you said.
@palaboink: Those who understand the importance of "me time."
Christine Uy: They look for the opposite what they are. Someone who can voice articulately what's on their minds; someone who have less inhibitions.
Christian Cachero: Someone who can take them out of their comfort zone but still make them happy with what they're doing.
Jojie Tiongco: Intimacy, honesty, open and meaningful communication, minimal partying, fun activities that are couple-centered and/or involve only family and a few close friends, respect for personal space, prudence in financial management, joint decision-making, reliability.
@iam_pipo says: It’s better to love introverts. They are full of surprises!
@zigjag says it’s better for introverts to date extroverts: It’s fun to love the opposite. There’s no more thrill if both of you are too alike.
I also asked: What do extroverts look for in a relationship?
Russ Flores says: PDA, lots of it.
Rica Espiritu lists several things:
- Communication. Being able to talk about anything and everything under the sun.
- Acceptance. Being an extrovert, I express myself differently, sometimes even crazier than most. Criticizing my efforts to make you laugh and looking at me with disdain doesn't help the relationship!
- Yes, noise is our middle name.
- Honesty. Since we do have a tendency to talk too much and listen too little, we don't mind being told that we're overdoing it.
Dr. Holmes: “Opposites attract,” BUT when dealing with issues whether small- Revilla etc. be jailed OR big – children —being opposite may be upsetting and frustrating.
“Birds of a feather flock together.” which of these sayings are correct? Depends on the situation.
What’s best then? To change to be more successful? Is change possible? We shall answer these two questions on #AskMargie next week.
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