#AskMargie: Valenswining

MANILA, Philippines – The Valenswine discussion continues!

Last week, clinical psychologist Dr. Margie Holmes talked about being valenswined. For this week’s episode, she flips the script and talks about being on the other end, doing the valenswining.

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What if you’re the one doing the cheating? What if you were the swine and not swined?

First, let’s take a look at what the men said:

Benny Villanueva: Pretend I’m the husband’s estranged twin brother!

Franclem Pena: Single here — I’ll just say I’m practicing my wooing skill, perfecting it before i applied it to my woman.

Jeremy Baer: Tell her it was a business lunch.

Lee Soriano: Tell her “This is my cousin.”

Bert Quibuyen: I’d say BUSTED! I’m a goner. But if I were to cheat on my wife, I won’t be that stupid to take the other woman out dining in a place where there’s a chance my wife will see her. If I took another woman to a restaurant it’ll have to be out of town so that we can’t be seen together enjoying a fine dinner.

Bert Quibuyen: Quite frankly, I don’t know exactly what I’ll do. It depends on many factors and questions like: why is my wife there; did someone tell on me, is my wife alone or is she with friends, what’s the look on my wife’s face, etc.

Alfie Mella: Just for the sake of argument, if I were to cheat on my wife, I too would not take the other woman at any restaurant which I knew there would be a great chance that my wife would be going there also.

Alfie Mella: Of course, having been together for a long time, I’d know my wife’s routine and places she usually goes to. That would be a guide on where to take the other woman. The farther from home, the further away from any unlikely meeting and therefore, better.

Now, let’s take a look at what some of the women said:

Aida F. Santos: I’d say, “What a surprise, honey! Oh, you’re so sweet.”

Laarni Butlay: Oh no! Well, stay calm, pretend everything’s okay, say, “I will explain it to you later hon” then introduce him to my date. After that, saka ko na iisipin ang hatol nya.

Mei Magsino: I will invite him to the table and introduce him to my date. And make him see how the competition is soooo much better than him!

Maureen Jean Lara: I can’t’ say what I will do for sure, but I’m pretty sure I won’t look guilty.

Rho Clemente: Dedma na lang sabay ilag.

D. Holmes: If you’ll notice, when it comes to being the swine, the female answers are not as many, as varied or as nuanced as the male answers. Why is that? Research strongly suggests that more men than women are valenswines so is stands to reason that men have had more practice getting out of sticky situations. What about you? Why do you think male and female answers were so different?

– Rappler.com