#AskMargie: High school relationships

MANILA, Philippines – June is just around the corner and for a lot of teens, it means going back to school. For some, it means going into the next stage – from high school to college.

In this week’s episode of #AskMargie, clinical psychologist Dr. Margie Holmes talks about high school sweethearts where one of or both parties make the jump from high school life to college life and how it can affect the relationship.

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Some kids are heading back to school.
Some are making the transition from high school to college.

So I asked: Can a high school romance withstand the pressures of university life? Here’s what you said.

Anne Nepomuceno-Kaquilala: Mine didn’t. Different colleges meant different schedules which made seeing and having time for each other a challenge. There was also the challenge of traveling so that you can be together, which meager student allowances can’t provide for.

Shiloh Kuku: It’s very difficult. At that age, relationships tend to be greatly influenced by convenience — you fall in love with the person/s you spend a lot of time with, share the same experiences with. Going to different colleges can get very inconvenient.

A very succinct one came from Alexandra Holmes: It doesn’t work.

Ferdz de O says: Aside from the conflicting schedules, the transitory experience of high school romance, of “seeing each other almost daily, to going to college where your perspectives increase and horizons broaden, there’s the risk of more temptations and of “out of sight, out of mind”.

Cherry Jael Bellodo Agutaya says: Maybe some will survive but majority will not.

Jenny Llaguno: No, it won’t. There will be more handsome men/prettier girls. What relationship?

Mei Magsino: Distance makes the heart go look for another!

Anonymous says: Treat it like a long-distance relationship. Yes, you’ll be apart and be exposed to more opportunities for personal growth, but you can grow together, if you’re truly committed to the relationship.

Lily A. says: It helps if your interests and temperaments are nearly similar. That way, even if you do end up becoming a little different than when you two first met and fell in love, there’s still a chance you can still fall in love with the persons you two have become.

Funnily enough, it was the men who came up with the most thought provoking answers.

Jeremy Baer: Since high school relationships are normally people’s first love, and since most people have more than one relationship, it’s unlikely it will last, even if you go to the same college and even more unlikely if you go to separate colleges!

Bob Couttie: What is the first love for but to prepare for the second?

Ooooh. I so love that, Bob Couttie. Recognizing the importance of first love and yet not denigrating it even if it doesn’t last. Thank you, Bob, Jeremy, Lily A., and all you wonderful people who weighed in—not just those mentioned here, but all those who pm-ed, answered on Facebook, tweeted. Well, That’s it for today!

– Rappler.com

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