#AskMargie: Incest part 3
Here’s the statement from Alfie Mella that got some pretty strong reactions:
He said: “Personally I don't mind incest as long as there is truly mutual consent between the persons involved.”
Many of you disagreed with Alfie.
Bert Quibuyen says: Sa dami ng mga pwedeng ka-sex sa mundo, bakit kapamilya pa? Ako'y nasusuka sa incest na ito. It may be between consenting relatives, but para sa akin it's still sickening. Consenting, willing with love, no consent, forced, whatever it is, incest makes me sick.
Raul de Vera: Setting the many convictions on religiosity aside, incest is one form of censorship that I personally am against. Not because I agree with the many who quote from their revered holy books, but because even science has proven that in-breeding produces weak offspring.
He continues: But of course, this is just me talking and I cannot force anyone to take my side. Sabi nga ni Manong Johnny, "Gusto ko, happy ka!" Someone commented about having sex with consent, I completely agree with that. We humans should evolve that if there is consent between parties, it should be permissible. That is how a developed society should evolve.
To these reactions, Alfie responds by qualifying his stand on incest: “As long as there is a truly mutual consent between the persons involved.”
He adds: By that, I made sure that I disqualified the horrific aspects of incest. By saying "truly mutual consent," this means that there should be no adult-minor relationship because in this case there is the influence of power and authority, so this does not count as truly mutual consent.
Incest is not always equal to pregnancy. Sex is not only for procreation. Sex is also for pleasure.
Now concerning the question, why a relative when there are so many other available humans:
I don't question the reason some people engage in incest as long as--again--there is a truly mutual consent.
To me, it's like believing in a god--if a person wants to believe in a god, it's her choice--as long as that choice is making her a better person rather than making her a more bigoted individual.
Alfie continues: The question is generally "What is your view on the issue of incest?" and not "Will you engage in incest?"
There's a big difference between those two questions. Many people fall in the folly of confusing issues and mixing personal preference with being respectful or understanding of the preferences of others.
Many people become bigots just because they expect others to be always in line with their own beliefs and preferences--even if such choices do not do them or other people any harm.
Dr. Holmes: In most incest cases that are consensual, sibling relationships are most common. We have something of this sort on mainstream television – in the series Game of Thrones, we have the Lannister twins Cersei and Jaime, whose union bore fruit – Joffrey.
Visceral, beyond the intellectual – why? And even if we look at the cognitive, baka mahirap pa rin. Maybe you can't change, but at least good to know why diba?
A true consensual relationship AND making sure no repercussions one can’t deal with: take birth control, etc.
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