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MANILA, Philippines – In this last episode of the #AskMargie’s four-part series on introverts and extroverts, clinical psychologist talks about the possibility of an introvert turning into an extrovert and vice versa.
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Back in episode 1, some of you said people can be introverted or extroverted depending on situations. Actually, it’s not that people can change from being an introvert to an extrovert, but that they can seem to change depending on the situation.
For example, ADLIB : introvert salesman seems extrovert; EXTROVERT suitor seems introvert to parents of girl
Because so many of you asked how they could be more extroverted, I asked if you think introverts are at a disadvantage here in the Philippines. Here’s what you said.
Carmela Fernando: Yes, introverts may be put at a disadvantage because in a culture that validates those who are loud and who are the majority, introverts tend to be automatically discounted and unfairly labeled as ‘loners’ and ‘antisocial.’
Mitch Reyes: Extroverts have the tendency to be dominant. Kung mas knowledgeable ang introvert, usually nalalamangan sya ng diskarte ng extrovert.
Jojie Tiongco: I think introverts here are not necessarily disadvantaged. Our culture seems to be respectful of the quiet and reserved personality as long as it’s coupled with being courteous.
Jojie continues: The disadvantage can come from the inability of many introverts to handle the level of expressiveness of most Filipinos. That, and inquisitiveness. Filipinos are predominantly very relational. As an introvert, that sometimes makes me cringe a little bit.
Alfie Mella says there are several factors that affect a person’s attitude toward other people. These factors that can affect how “social-interactive” – I love that phrase, Alfie, thank you—or, in other words, how extroverted and thus outgoing one seems as opposed to introverted and thus how inner focused one also seems are the follwoing: 1) familiarity, 2) insecurity, 3) interest, and 4) personal skills and abilities.
Alfie adds: “No person is permanently introvert or extrovert.”
Let me qualify that a bit: “No person seems permanently introverted or extroverted because sometimes, as Alfie and so many of you have stated, circumstances require you behave differently.
ADLIB: extroverts seem greater time than introverts. Operative word: seems cause of superficial understanding of good time.
And that may be the reason we had kazillion questions on becoming more “extroverted” and only 1 question on how to be more “introverted.”
Emman asks: As an introvert who struggles to communicate with acquaintances in person, how does one overcome the tendency and preference for isolation?
@JayMoli adds: Can a person evolve from being an introvert to an extrovert? I think I did.
Christine Uy asks: Why do we label them as introverts or extroverts? Does it help? It seems that science want to put people in boxes. Ikaw dito ka, so ganito ako sa yo. Ikaw ganito ka, so ganito pakikutungo ko sa yo. People are weird creatures. We have many facets. Minsan gusto natin makihalubilo. Minsan, leave me alone!
Christine Uy continues: Should we draw out introverts from their shell? In the same manner, should we encourage extroverts to shut their mouths for sometime? Or should we accept people as they are?
PSYCHOLOGICAL PERSPECTIVE: Definitely accept people as they are, Christine. No use trying to change people into something they aren’t. Even if only for the pragmatic reason that it doesn’t work. This is one, perhaps isolated time the French are right: “Plus ce change, Plus ce la me’m chose” The more things are different, the more they are the same.
– Rappler.com
Watch previous episodes:
Introverts-extroverts (part 1)
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