#AskMargie: Valenswines

MANILA, Philippines – This week on #AskMargie we continue the month-long episodes on Valentine’s. Clinical psychologist Dr. Margie Holmes is introducing a new term – Valenswine. What’s that? Watch to find out.

“Valenswine.”

This refers to men who take their wives to a romantic night out on February 14…and then their mistresses on the day after or indeed, before. Or both! I guess it depends how any mistresses one has–grrrrr

But first I asked you: What’s your own definition of a “Valenswine”?

Evangeline Sangalang: One who talks about himself too much, like he is God’s gift to women.

Jan Argy: Someone who reserves a 3-hour date at Sogo.

Tanya Garcia: People turning to pigs during before/after Valentine’s to date their secret lovers. I get this image of Porky Pig and Miss Piggy in Victoria Court, este, hotel na pala.

Ella Kintanar: A guy who will wine and dine you so he can get laid on V-Day.

Matteo Perez: Someone who will ask my sisters out and say, “Pumayag ka na. Ikaw din, Valentine’s day ngayon, wala kang date.” My sisters are too damn pretty for them!

Tammie Tam: Someone who takes you out to dinner then talks about his ex the whole time and then you end up paying for dinner because he forgot his card.

Andrew Bennett: My late father was put in that category by my late mother when he asked his secretary to buy flowers and send them to my mother. A fairly moderate case of Valenswinery but, yes, he could have bought them himself!

Mei Magsino: A strong indication of a Valenswine is when your boyfriend or husband asks you to go out on February 13, not 14. There’s a 90% chance that you are not the only one, and he’s reserving Valentine’s day for another girl.

Mei adds: There’s no cure for Valenswines. They’re just the congenital, pathological, perpetually insecure people who were born with that intense longing to look and feel better than everybody else by exaggerating their sexual adventures with the women they fool. These escapades are often told to friends over boys’ nights out to make better looking men envious but the effect doesn’t last. Decent men don’t pig out!

**And aside before we continue with this discussion, …bipolar disorder. In the end, a bipolar who doesn’t take his meds might very easily be mistaken as a v-swine but may not be….***

And then there are those of you who disagreed with the term

Don Libao Rochie says: Women cheat too. Let’s not forget that.

Moi: Korek ka dyan, Don. Salamat!

Chot Velasquez: While I do not agree with the practice, I also do not agree with the labeling. They may be lacking morally but why call them swines?

Dr. Holmes: I think there are two reasons for this, Chot. The first is because colloquially a swine is a cad, someone to be regarded with contempt, wc is how most people regard adulterers? because people who, as Hmmmm…perhaps we should call them Valenswenators instead!

Which brings me to reason 2: Valenswines has a nice ring to it: same number of syllables, plus, it rhymes with valentines!

– Rappler.com