Let the good times last: 4 tips for guys

MANILA, Philippines – In most circumstances, faster is always better.

In sports, at work, or in transit, less seconds equals more stamina, productivity, or time for other things.

But there’s one area where being first isn’t always a good thing: sex.

It’s not uncommon for guys to have some sort of “performance anxiety” when it comes to sex. Everything from body image to being able to satisfy their partner can stress them out, and this in turn affects how long – or how brief – they last in bed.

But is the worry founded on fact? Various researchers have agreed that men take less than ten minutes to reach an orgasm. One study says that the average is 6.5 minutes for men between 18 to 30 years old.

So the stories you’ve heard about “lasting all night long” may be more myth than reality.

Fortunately, there are many tricks that can help men boost your endurance further. You don’t have to think about math problems or hit pause in the middle of intercourse to do these.

Eat less meat… sort of

You might have read somewhere that vegetarians have better endurance than meat eaters. While there isn’t enough evidence to support this claim in terms of sexual performance, what’s certain is that exercise and proper diet can help you become stronger and less tired.

Consider quitting smoking and cutting back on alcohol, too. Various studies have shown that those who stopped smoking experienced better results in bed. Excessive alcohol drinking can cause erectile dysfunction, according to the Mayo Clinic.

Work on your pre-game

If excitement gets in the way of things, a little personal prep will go a long way.

Masturbation is good for you, according to scientists. It’s a normal and completely natural sexual activity.

It helps your body feel more relaxed before doing the actual deed with your partner.

It’s also good practice: you can try holding off your orgasm during masturbation so you can work on your delaying tactics.

Masturbation has long-term benefits for your performance, too: doing it can possibly help prevent erectile dysfunction, according to a European study. 

Let her take the lead

During intercourse, let your female partner hold the reins and control the pace. 

When girls are on top, they usually prefer a slower, more measured rhythm, which helps keep things prolonged and steady. It can also mean a better, stronger orgasm, doctors say.

So lie back and enjoy the moment – literally. 

Be a gentleman

Anxiety is seen as a common cause for erectile dysfunction. Men report feeling worried about whether they’re making their partner feel good.

Sex isn’t all about penetration. Be a nice guy, and help your partner finish first.

The upside is that afterwards, your partner will be more ready – and willing – to help you climax too. With less pressure from your end, you’ll have a better time.

Whatever method you try, don’t forget the condom. Putting on one protects you from sexually transmitted diseases and helps you avoid unwanted pregnancies.

Just remember to replace your condom if you’re doing multiple penetrations (there’s such a thing called pre-ejaculation and it can still get a woman pregnant).

If you suspect that you’re suffering from erectile dysfunction or you can’t last beyond two minutes, don’t hesitate to ask a doctor for help. Premature ejaculation is common and it can be treatable. 

If all else fails, keep in mind that sex isn’t just about reaching orgasm – however long (or short) it takes. Focus on enjoying other aspects of the act, and you’ll be primed to go for several more rounds.

That’s a wrap for this list. If you’ve got more tips to share, post them below! – Rappler.com