Bea Alonzo, Paulo Avelino, Derek Ramsay on marriage and settling down
MANILA, Philippines – With an upcoming film titled Kasal, it’s inevitable for its lead stars Bea Alonzo, Paulo Avelino, and Derek Ramsay to be asked about their thoughts on marriage. In a recent interview, the actors also talked about the importance of sexual intimacy, finding "the one," and the possibility of eventually settling down.
“Ako, naniniwala ako na dapat sinusunod mo lang yung nararamdaman mo sa bagay na ‘yan (For me, I think it's best to do what you feel is right),” said Bea, who described marriage as the “deepest kind of commitment” one can make during the press conference for Kasal.
Couples who have been in a long-term relationship often feel pressured to settle down, but Bea believes that this shouldn’t be the main deciding factor. Once you find the right person you want to spend the rest of your life with, Bea thinks saying yes, or popping the question, should be one of the easiest decisions you could make.
“I have friends who are already married, and most of them sinasabi nila sakin na kapag na meet mo na ‘yung tama tao (they told me that when you meet the right person) you’ll just know it. When you just know it, it will come, so it’s something [na] hindi mo siya napa-plano (that's not planned).”
“Dapat hindi siya ‘yung binibigyan mo ng deadline ‘yung sarili mo. Kasi sabi nila, kapag biniyayaan ka ng tamang tao malalaman mo nalang na siya na ‘yung the one at when to get married.” (You should not give yourself a deadline. Because as they say, if you're blessed with the right person, you'll know if that person is the one, and when to get married.)
Echoing Bea’s statement, Derek pointed out that rather than focus on the big day, people should work on their relationship first, get to know their partner —both the good and the bad — to fully understand the gravity of the commitment they’re making.
“You should take your time. What’s the rush if you're gonna spend the rest of your life together? Kasal (Marriage), the ceremony, all of that, sometimes people fall in love with that specific day. Marriage is not that specific day; it’s the rest of your life.”
“And a lot of people make the mistake… they fall in love with that whole concept of a wedding and they jump into that and that could be very dangerous. Kasal it’s for the rest of your life, so if you're given the opportunity to be with your partner for quite a while, get to know them inside and out.”
Paulo, meanwhile, thinks it all boils down to compatibility.
“For me, it’s finding if you're compatible with your partner in all aspects, which includes sexual. If both parties agree to it, and if not then so be it,” he shared.
Bea and Derek’s last project was the 2009 movie And I Love You So. Bea said that working with Derek has always been an enjoyable experience.
“It feels good na makatrabaho ulit si Derek kasi, ewan ko, may iba sigurong chemistry rin. Ako ‘yun nafi-feel ko at least when we do a scene together, parang nafifeel ko na ang dali, ang dali ng lahat. Nagkakaintindihan kami, and nung napapanood ko sa monitor pag preview... natutuwa ako kasi sabi ko, namiss ko talaga si Derek sa isang Star Cinema movie.”
(It feels good to work with Derek again because there's a different chemistry, I guess. For me, I feel that when we do scenes together, it's easy. We understand each other and when I watched it on the monitor for preview... I told myself: I really miss working with Derek for a Star Cinema movie.)
Derek admitted that Bea was one of the reasons why he accepted Kasal as his comeback movie with Star Cinema.
“I've worked with so many talented leading ladies but I’m not scared to say that for me, Bea is the number 1 leading lady out there and a big part why I chose to accept this film is because I got to work with Bea again, and of course with my director who was a big a part of my success in the film with No Other Woman, so nagsama ‘yung dalawa (the two joined forces).”
Kasal, described as a “riveting romance drama” is Star Cinema’s 25th anniversary offering directed by Ruel S. Bayani.
It tells the story of Lia Marquez (Bea), a simple public school teacher, who finds herself questioning her decision to marry Cebu’s most eligible bachelor and mayoral candidate Philip Cordero (Paulo) when her ex-boyfriend Wado dela Costa (Derek) comes back into her life. One ensures her a life of power and security while the other uncomplicated life with the allure and adventure of unpredictability.
During the press conference, the Kasal stars were all praises for direk Ruel Bayani, commending him for the collaborative environment on set. Bea, Derek, and Paulo were actually given the creative license to come up with some of the dialogue in the movie.
“What I like about Direk is he's a perfectionist. He won’t start a scene until we're all on the same page,” said Derek.
“So I guess a way to describe it is he trusts his actors, their opinions. Sometimes, we'll scrap what was actually written, sit down all together. He will come into your standby area, ‘Oh Derek before we shoot this we all have to talk about it’ and seriously it might even take longer than actually shooting the scene. It’s nice that you have a director who's proved that he's on the top of his game,” Derek said.
Kasal opens in theaters on May 16. – Rappler.com