What moving south and construction sites taught me
When my parents moved to Southern Manila in the mid-‘70s, the area was a vast expanse of rice fields, salt beds, and fish farms with a cool breeze and hardly a building in sight. It was a pristine place to raise children they decided, compared to the more congested North where they came from.
Their peers found this move slightly strange, unable to grasp why anyone in their right mind would want to live so far away from civilization in what literally looked like killing fields.
I would go as far as to say that my parents were pioneers, along with the many other intrepid Baby Boomers who made the urban exodus from north to south, each carrying a trunk load of boxes and suitcases filled with gumption and dreams of an exciting future.
The booming real estate market in this rapidly developing municipality brought in a surge of young families from far away who all tightly held on to the blueprint of a more laidback, suburban way of life—one with sprawling lawns, low fences, and a ticket out of the more rigid lifestyle carved out by the overbearing generation before them.
As one of the early settlers, our house was one of the very few in our gated community, where the next-door neighbor was literally several streets away and could be clearly seen across vacant lots without any obstruction save for trees and high-growing weeds and brambles.
Growing up in a relatively uncharted territory made for an interesting childhood. With the number of new houses being built around us, my older brother Miguel and I mainly had construction sites for playgrounds. Seeing a new house being built down the road gave us the same thrill any kid would feel when receiving a new toy.
We would jump for joy seeing trucks drive by overflowing with sand and gravel as if Santa himself were delivering gifts—except that instead of a sleigh, it was a mud-stricken 10-wheeler and instead of a jolly old fellow, Santa was a dark, topless driver with his shirt wrapped around his head and a cigarette in his mouth. He also reeked of gin.
We felt grateful for these gifts nonetheless, which included sacks of cement mix, boxes of 5-inch nails, bundles of wooden planks, steal beams, and lead pipes, stacks of hollow blocks, and rows of galvanized corrugated GI sheets. It was the ultimate mother load of all Lego sets.
My parents’ friends were probably correct in calling our place killing fields because with the kind of games we played in these construction sites, one wrong move would have led to either debilitating injury or sudden death.
Just before dusk, after all the sawing and hammering had subsided and the carpenters had gone home, Miguel and I would sneak into one of the construction sites and dangle on partially assembled steal beams, jump on wooden planks, and run upstairs on unfinished concrete staircases. We would climb mounds of gravel and burrow through heaps of sand, which sometimes had dog poo hiding underneath. And if we were lucky, we would find some leftover wet cement to mold and splatter around the walls. We felt like magical elves helping the carpenters while they were away.
Building a house with a nuisance like us was probably more like taking two steps forward and one step back because of all the little damages carpenters had to undo the next morning. And based on the Spartan-branded footprints we left on wet cement, I’m sure the carpenters clearly knew they weren’t dealing with mischievous elves in this case, but two nosy brats from next door.
Needless to say we had our share of scraped knees and scratched elbows, along with the occasional deep splinters in our hands and feet. And wearing thin rubber tsinelas didn’t help much when it came to protruding nails. One time I stepped on a wooden plank with a rusty old nail sticking out and punctured my foot. I had to painfully skip back home dripping blood all over the street.
That was when my parents finally discovered that the neighbor’s house we said we were playing at was the one with no actual neighbors living in it yet. Technically, we didn’t lie. We just weren’t that accurate.
After that incident, we were relegated to playing in the real playground in the neighborhood park, which my parents naively thought was much safer than construction sites. We played this game on the seesaw where we would use all our weight to stay on the ground and then quickly jump out of our seat so that the other kid suspended from the opposite end would come crashing down.
We rarely sat merrily rocking forward and backward on swings. Our goal was to make a full 360-degree revolution, standing on the seat. We didn’t hang from monkey bars. We balanced on top of them. Slides were a game of speed. The fun was in avoiding being kicked hard in the back by the next eager kid behind us, that is, if we were lucky enough not to squeak our way down and burn our thighs along eight feet of shiny hot metal with solid pavement waiting to catch our fall. Our playground was practically as deadly as any construction site.
Because of our dangerous playgrounds (both official and unofficial), we managed to pick up essential life-preserving skills one would otherwise learn only in prison. Thankfully, neither Miguel nor I have ever been to prison to actually test out that theory. Nevertheless, such experiences built in us a sense of fearlessness and resourcefulness. Never mind death from tetanus. No rusty lead pipe was getting in the way of a good adventure.
And as life would have it, Miguel and I lived long enough to eventually pick up the “moving south” gene from our parents.
Many years later, my own southern wind came calling. It carried me even farther down south to study in the University of the Philippines in Los Baños. It was so far south it wasn’t even in Manila anymore. And I even topped that several years later by moving so further down south I actually flew across the South China Sea to live and work in another country altogether.
Miguel didn’t go as dramatically far south as I did (he usually leaves the dramatics to me) but he eventually made his own southern trek, this time with his young family. He recently built a house in one of the new residential communities being developed south of Manila (the new killing fields). And just like our pioneering parents before us, he’s carried with him a bagful of gumption and dreams of an exciting future, one that echoes a now distant childhood when we ourselves stood small among the many homes that were being constructed around us, learning to build our own lives on new ground.
And we have never truly stopped building ever since. The sawing and hammering in life never does stop. We expand. We crumble. We repair. Scrapes and scratches and the occasional rusty nails may come with the experience of discovering something new, but they also allow us to discover the strength of our spirit in the process.
As I now watch my brother’s two young girls build their own experiences in a vast new land (hopefully not sneaking out to play in construction sites), I know that they too will follow their own inner compass one day and take their own journey to wherever their heart leads them. And when that happens, I pray that they will always be blessed with the right tools at the right moment to help them create exactly the kind of life they envision. - Rappler.com
Paolo Mangahas is a Filipino writer who has published several essays on food, lifestyle, fashion, and social and environmental development in various publications in the Philippines and abroad. He currently resides in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, managing communications for a regional marine conservation program. Follow him on Twitter: www.twitter.com/paolomangahas.
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